You are your family’s prophet. That is who you are if you are married and/or if you have children or dependents. that’s how God sees you. That’s how your spouse and children regard you, whether they are conscious of it or not. Your spouse and children, according to their nature, expect you to speak life into their lives. They expect you to have the steering wheel in hand. They expect you to know where the ship is going and how to take them there.
If we as fathers are to be honest with ourselves, we need to admit that this task is overwhelming, to say the least. However, the good news is that in Christ we have all our abilities and gifts revived and empowered according to the riches of His glory. He has seated us with Him in the heavenly places and given us the authority according to His mercy and grace. We are more than over-comers. We are conquerors. We are no longer what we used to be. We are a new creation and the new creation does not live in the past, defeated, in despair or in the unknown. The new creation reigns with Christ.The new creation worships God in Spirit and in truth. The new creation testifies to Jesus and the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy. In other words, we live in the events that are to come in the now. We speak, we act, we think, we decide according to what we see the Father doing ahead of us, in the spiritual, beyond the temporal. We are prophets of our age. We are prophets of our lives and our families, and then to our ministries, churches, cities, nations and the world!
I always try to help my kids learn to hear what God is speaking to them. So I pray with them. I ask them if they can feel what I feel or hear what I hear. I let them know what I hear God is speaking to them. I seek to help them grow in a spiritual atmosphere, and I do not mean just teaching them kids hymns and show bible cartoons.
Concerning my two years old son, God spoke and said “Samuel, you have a large heart” and God confirmed it to me when a sister prophesied the same, saying that he will become an evangelist. The same happened for my four years old daughter. God said that she will be of great stature and others testified that she will be a teacher of God’s Word. These proclamations which God confirms are not mere predictions. These are prophecies spoken in faith. They are life-giving words released from the spiritual into the physical. These words feed a child’s life more than natural food and vitamins. These words edify, build up and straighten a path before them. These are God’s words, handed over to us, entrusted to us, to use them wisely and diligently.
While praying with my wife and a sister from our church, she saw in her spirit a building under construction, which represented me and I took into my structure my wife and children, and we formed a perfect unity. This building had radars on top and could catch the thundering signals from heaven. Every father is called to ministry. Every household is called to ministry on earth and in the church. If we don’t involve all of our household members in the ministry, then our ministry will be incomplete and will not be able to communicate the heavenly on the earth.
We are God’s people. We need to act like it. We are Christ’s ambassadors and we need to get the Embassy in order. We are the salt of the earth and the light, which shines in the darkness. We are here for a reason and we are here for a short time.
While prophesying over a family from our church, God showed me a thick wool-threaded tent, with only the top covered and four sides open in a desert with a clear desert night sky, full of stars. It was a reference to Abraham and God calling him out of the tent to gaze at the stars and encounter God’s love’s greatness in the innumerable stars. God said that they lived under His covering, in the heavenly places as well as on earth at the same time. It was like when God lift up the prophet from his hair and he was hanging between the heavens and the earth. God said they are a family, which lives somewhere between heaven and earth. He also revealed that they are there only for a season just as nomads or people living under tents only set up camp to stay for a short period of time and never indefinitely. We are sojourners, passing by, sowing in some and reaping others. Nomad prophets entrusted with a great task. God’s generals and God’s leaders paving the way for future generations, until Christ’s glorious return.
I pray that you may be encouraged to take a stand in your authority and claim what is your rightful inheritance. It is a natural desire in man to leave an inheritance to his children. The greatest treasure anyone can leave to his children is the legacy in the Kingdom of God. May the Lord be glorified by your service and worship.
Several sections make up an individual’s profile on a dating website. This article explains all the sections and also talks about the best ways you can make each one of them in order to attract …
Intimacy (into-me-see) is the right way to look at how women view this topic. Many women long for people in their lives that can see what is really going on with them.
What does it mean to be intimate? It means to be close. To look at someone and see the real person. For a woman it removes the superficiality and the barriers that separate her from everyone else. Some equate being known intimately as standing before someone with nothing to hide.
Let me offer some points that outline what intimacy means to a woman;
1) It means “you can see the real me”- women who open up and let you see the best in themselves. They love being transparent because it means they can just be themselves. And they want to be surrounded by people who can look at them and see who they really are.
2) It means “we are connected”- today’s woman has so much pressure to feel connected to the idea created by the media when they are selling beer and cars; a slim beautiful woman who belongs on the cover on a magazine. Yet many women don’t fit this concept because not all women have the figure or the face to compete. This makes them feel unconnected to the concept of beautiful women portrayed in the public. When a woman knows that she has intimacy with someone else she feels connected and accepted.
3) it means “you can love me and I will love you back”- Intimacy opens the door to being loved with her whole heart being involved. I believe that loving a woman and having her love you back is one of the best feelings a person can have in this lifetime. To find a woman who will not only give you her heart but everything she has to offer is not to be compared with anything else. It is great to find women who are loved and feel loved, free to express themselves without reservation.
4) It means ‘sex is going to be awesome”- when a man connects with a woman on an intimate level that transcends just the touch and the act of sex. A woman who feels intimacy towards a man will give him her heart, her soul and her body. This is clearly the best sex any couple could ever hope to experience.
Let’s hope that all women can have sincere intimacy in their lives. The world will be a better place because of it.
Previous research has suggested that shy children have difficulties with language. Now, a new longitudinal study paints a more nuanced picture. The study, of 816 toddlers, found that children who are inhibited in their behavior tend to speak less but understand what’s being said as well as less shy peers. In other words, these children have performance problems when speaking with others, but don’t lack capability, suggesting that they’re merely reluctant to respond rather than delayed or deficient in understanding language.
The study, conducted at the University of Colorado Boulder and the University of Connecticut, appears in the journal Child Development.
“Our findings suggest that inhibited behaviors like shyness don’t hamper language acquisition overall but instead relate specifically to how toddlers express themselves through words,” according to Ashley K. Smith Watts, graduate student, and Soo H. Rhee, associate professor of psychology, both of the University of Colorado, who were part of the research team.
The study also found that girls had higher levels of both shyness and language than boys. However, the degree to which shyness was related to language development was similar for girls and boys.
Researchers collected information from 816 children in Colorado who were primarily White but varied in socioeconomic status and who were representative of the population of Boulder. Information was collected at ages 14, 20, and 24 months through parent reports and by observing children during home and lab visits. The researchers assessed expressive, or spoken, language by asking children to imitate certain sounds and words (like /ai/ and “mama”), and by asking the children to answer questions verbally. They assessed receptive, or understood, language by asking children to follow instructions (“Give me the cup and ball”).
“Shy children may need help with developing their speaking abilities,” added Smith Watts and Rhee. “They may benefit from interventions that target confidence, social competence, and autonomy to support the development of expressive language. For example, caregivers can encourage them to be autonomous and arrange play dates with compatible peers.”
Feb 11, 2014
“I really want to get my ex girlfriend back.” Any man who has said this knows that it’s a challenge trying to reunite with a woman you’re not longer with. When a relationship ends, and one person is ready to move forward, while the other isn’t, it’s heartbreaking. If your ex girlfriend is the woman you believe you are destined to be with, you need to get busy doing whatever it takes to get her back. With the right insight and a proven plan in place, you can get another chance at happiness with the woman you adore.
There are three important steps every man needs to take if he wants to get his ex girlfriend back. If you’re serious about a future with the woman you love, these proven tips will help you accomplish that:
Apologize to her. It doesn’t matter if the break up was your idea or not, you need to take ownership for whatever you did that contributed to the relationship falling apart. Think back to whatever your girlfriend said during your relationship that would give you some insight into what bothered her the most. If there was something you did that upset or frustrated her that could have contributed to her decision to end things. Call her up and say you’re sorry. Keep it simple, short and sincere.
Agree with the break up. This is challenging for almost every man who wants his ex back, but it works. Rejection is a really strong emotion and it’s what is driving you to want your ex back. You hate the feeling and the only way to get rid of it is to get back your girl. That’s why you need to push that feeling back to her. Tell her that you agree with the break up. Don’t be cruel about it or mean in any way. Just tell her that you’ve come to realize that some time apart would be a very good thing. Try and control your emotions when you do this. It will not only surprise her but it will also make her feel that same rejection you are now feeling. In an instant you’ll make her start thinking about getting you back.
Cut off all contact. You’ve really got to pull together some willpower for this but you’ll be glad you did. Although you feel that it’s necessary to continually reach out to her in an effort to get her back, it’s not the best thing for you to be doing. If you can stop talking to her for a few weeks, you’ll completely change the dynamic of the relationship between the two of you. She’ll suddenly want you back because she’ll be missing you like crazy. She’ll also start to wonder if you’ve found someone else when she doesn’t hear from you in so long. It’s a great tactic if you can do it.
Marriage is good for the health of men’s bones — but only if they marry when they’re 25 or older, new UCLA research suggests.
In a study published online in the peer-reviewed journal Osteoporosis International, researchers found evidence that men who married when they were younger than 25 had lower bone strength than men who married for the first time at a later age.
In addition, men in stable marriages or marriage-like relationships who had never previously divorced or separated had greater bone strength than men whose previous marriages had fractured, the researchers said. And those in stable relationships also had stronger bones than men who never married.
Although for women there were no similar links between bone health and being married or in a marriage-like relationship, the study authors did find evidence that women with supportive partners had greater bone strength than those whose partners didn’t appreciate them, understand how they felt or were emotionally unsupportive in other ways.
This is the first time that marital histories and marital quality have been linked to bone health, said the study’s senior author, Dr. Carolyn Crandall, a professor of medicine in the division of general internal medicine and health services research at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA.
“There is very little known about the influence of social factors — other than socioeconomic factors — on bone health,” Crandall said. “Good health depends not only on good health behaviors, such as maintaining a healthy diet and not smoking, but also on other social aspects of life, such as marital life stories and quality of relationships.”
The researchers used data from the Midlife in the United States (MIDUS) study, which recruited participants between the ages 25 and 75 in 1995-96. Participants from that study were re-interviewed in 2004-05 (MIDUS II). Specifically, the authors used hip and spine bone-density measurements obtained by standard bone-density scanners during participants’ MIDUS II visits at UCLA, Georgetown University and the University of Wisconsin-Madison and other data to examine the relationship between bone health and marriage in 294 men and 338 women from around the country. They also took into consideration other factors that influence bone health, such as medications, health behaviors and menopause.
The associations between marriage and bone health were evident in the spine but not the hip, possibly due to differences in bone composition, the researchers said.
The data suggested several significant correlations between marriage and bone health — but only for men. The study authors found that men in long-term stable marriages or marriage-like relationships had higher bone density in the spine than every other male group, including men currently married who had previously been divorced or separated, men not currently in a relationship and men who had never been married.
Among men who first married prior to turning 25, the researchers found a significant reduction in spine bone strength for each year they were married before that age.
“Very early marriage was detrimental in men, likely because of the stresses of having to provide for a family,” said study co-author Dr. Arun Karlamangla, a professor of medicine in the geriatrics division at the Geffen School.
For instance, the authors said, those who marry young are likely to be less educated, leading to lower pay and more difficulty in making ends meet.
The researchers don’t know the biological pathways connecting bone health and marriage — this will be the next stage in their research. And the findings are limited by the fact that there were no longitudinal assessments of bone density; the findings, therefore, only suggest a correlation, not cause and effect.
Despite these limitations, the findings “provide additional new evidence of the association between psychosocial life histories and adult bone health,” the authors write. “The gender differences observed in the association between marital history and [bone strength] are consistent with gender differences seen in previous studies of marital status and other aspects of health, and imply that we should not assume that marriage has the same health rewards for men and women.
“Specifically, never marrying, and experiencing a divorce, widowhood, or separation are associated with poor bone health in men, whereas poor marital quality is associated with poor bone health in women.”
Researchers Dr Paul Coulton and Selina Ellis Gray are analysing the ways in which western mourning practices are changing in the modern world thanks to the increasing amounts of personal data we leave online.
Selina Ellis Gray said: “Our deaths are now followed by the slow decay of a massive body of data, which include huge amounts created from regular social media use.”
As part of her interdisciplinary PhD, she is questioning what happens to all our tweets, status updates and selfies after we’ve gone and how can we begin to design for these remains.
Dr Coulton said: “In today’s digital age, when we die we often leave behind a digital legacy. Relatives are no longer only considering what to do with books, tea sets, vases and toolboxes but they are also thinking about online social remnants such as digital photos, videos, status updates and emails.
“While these ghostly reminders online are enabling new types of mourning practices, they are consequently presenting a number of challenges to the traditional role of custodianship as these remnants of digital life cannot be placed within rooms or on shelves in quite the same way as a piece of jewellery or a lock of hair.
“These remains are searchable, discoverable and open to reinterpretation such that the dead can return unbidden to haunt the living in unexpected ways.”
The threshold between life and death has also become a much more public event with the last status updates and final tweets of victims of events such as the Colorado massacre becoming global news. Selina has documented how such spaces online have become highly visited, with some gathering over 10 million views and daily visitors who consider these places as a positive focus for their loss. She hopes her ongoing research in this emergent area will have an impact on future technology design and also support services. Alongside her thesis, Selina has a number of publications forthcoming in 2014 and will be presenting at this year’s first ‘Death Online Research’ symposium with other leading experts in the field.
Dr Coulton said: “These changing responses to death — and the digital legacy we leave behind — are posing all sorts of new questions and challenges, not only for technology designers and professionals who provide bereavement support but also for society in general.”
If she loves you and then she loves you not, don’t blame the petals of that daisy. Blame evolution.
UCLA researchers analyzed dozens of published and unpublished studies on how women’s preferences for mates change throughout the menstrual cycle. Their findings suggest that ovulating women have evolved to prefer mates who display sexy traits — such as a masculine body type and facial features, dominant behavior and certain scents — but not traits typically desired in long-term mates.
So, desires for those masculine characteristics, which are thought to have been markers of high genetic quality in our male ancestors, don’t last all month — just the few days in a woman’s cycle when she is most likely to pass on genes that, eons ago, might have increased the odds of her offspring surviving and reproducing.
“Women sometimes get a bad rap for being fickle, but the changes they experience are not arbitrary,” said Martie Haselton, a professor of psychology and communication studies at UCLA and the paper’s senior author. “Women experience intricately patterned preference shifts even though they might not serve any function in the present.”
The findings will appear online this month in Psychological Bulletin, which is published by the American Psychological Association.
Haselton and Kelly Gildersleeve, a UCLA doctoral candidate in psychology and the study’s lead author, spent three years attempting to resolve the controversy. They solicited raw data from dozens of scholars who have conducted research on the topic and then translated the data from 50 studies into the same mathematical format so that the findings could be statistically analyzed together.
The strength of women’s preference shift proved to be statistically significant, although “small” to “medium” in size, relative to most findings in the field. As a point of comparison, the size of the shift was statistically comparable to the difference researchers have found between men’s and women’s self-reported number of heterosexual sex partners (with men reporting more sex partners).
The findings are less clear, however, about which male characteristics are most alluring to ovulating women. But women’s responses to male body scents could be capable of producing the strongest effects, Haselton said.
In the few scent studies conducted so far, researchers asked women to smell T-shirts that had been worn by men with varying degrees of body and facial symmetry. (Across a large body of research on many different animals, body and facial symmetry are associated with larger body size, more pronounced sexual “ornaments” such as the attractive plumage on male birds, and better health, suggesting that symmetry could be an indicator of genetic quality.) Women preferred the odors of more symmetrical men when in the fertile portions of their cycles. The UCLA meta-analysis likewise showed a large shift in women’s preference for the body odor of symmetrical men, although more studies are needed to determine whether this effect is robust.
Haselton, who is based in UCLA’s College of Letters and Science, is one of a handful of pioneers in research on behavioral changes at ovulation. One of her studies showed that women who are partnered to men they view as less sexy are more likely to experience attraction to other men at ovulation than women who rate their male partners as very sexy.
“The excellent reputation Martie has among researchers in this field and her deep understanding of the intricacies of ovulation research make her an ideal person to spearhead this ambitious meta-analytic study,” said Jeffry Simpson, a psychology professor at the University of Minnesota. “Her extensive knowledge of this area coupled with the fact that she and her collaborators were able to identify the specific features of men that women find most appealing as short-term versus long-term mates at different points of the ovulatory cycle makes this paper a truly important one.”
The presence of shifts in sexual preferences among women may generate debate, but shifts in sexual preferences and behavior are well documented in mammals as diverse as rats and orangutans. For example, female chimpanzees are known to prefer to have sex with different males within the fertile phrase than they prefer outside of this phase — a strategy thought to improve their offspring’s chances of survival.
“Until the past decade, we all accepted this notion that human female sexuality was radically different from sexuality in all of these other animal species — that, unlike other species, human female sexuality was somehow walled off from reproductive hormones,” Haselton said. “Then a set of studies emerged that challenged conventional wisdom.”
One hypothesis for why a mate preference shift occurs is that it may be an evolutionary adaptation that served our ancestors’ reproductive interests long before modern medicine, nutrition and sanitation dramatically reduced infant and child mortality rates.
“Under this hypothesis, women who preferred these characteristics were more likely to pass on beneficial genetic qualities to their children, thereby enhancing their children’s chances of survival and reproductive success,” Gildersleeve said.
“Ancestral women would have benefited reproductively from selecting partners with characteristics indicating that they’d be good co-parents, such as being kind, as well as characteristics indicating that they possessed high genetic quality such as having masculine faces and bodies,” Haselton said. “Women could have had the best of both worlds — securing paternal investment from a long-term mate and high-genetic quality from affair partners — but only if those affairs were timed at a point of high fertility within the cycle, and probably only if their affairs remained undiscovered.”
A different hypothesis, which Haselton and Gildersleeve also find plausible, proposes that shifts in women’s mate preferences across the menstrual cycle were adaptive in a now-extinct species that predated humans and are vestigial in humans — that is, like the coccyx, or tail bone, that remains at the end of the human spine, they persist in modern humans despite serving no apparent function.
Either way, Haselton and Gildersleeve firmly believe in the value of shedding light on the preference shift.
“If women understand the logic behind these shifts, it might better inform their sexual decision-making so that if they notice suddenly that they’re attracted to the guy in the next cubicle at work, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t have a great long-term partner,” Haselton said. “They’re just experiencing a fleeting echo from the past.”
How can I get my ex love back? That’s a question people in all parts of the world are asking every minute of the day. Human relationships are one of the most complicated things we ever have to deal with.
Why won’t my ex call me back? You’re asking this now because you’ve been trying in vain to get your ex to talk to you, right? You call and leave him or her message after message to no avail. They don’t respond and you’re left wondering why.