I thought he’d be pleased, I really did. But negative thinking can darken a cloudless day, bring down an uplifting event, and dampen a simple pleasure.
The 7 stop negative thinking discussing below:-
1) Stop thinking in extremes
Most of life isn’t black or white, completely this or that, all or nothing. But negative thinking tends to view bad stuff in the extreme. For example:
Rather than not doing as well as I’d like on my test, I’m going to “fail completely!”
Instead of my business venture taking a while to get going, it’s going to “crash and burn, leaving me ruined!”
Rather than just feeling a few nerves during my speech, I’m going to “die out there; they’re all going to hate me!”
All or nothing thinking misses out the subtle shades in life. It makes us see the future in terms of dramatic disasters, failures, and catastrophes. Sure, disasters occasionally happen, but – contrary to the shrill pronouncements from newsstands – most of life consists of shades of grey.
The first step to overcoming negative thinking isn’t to ‘just be positive’ all of a sudden, but to look for shades of grey. Say you’ve been worrying about a relationship. Rather than thinking: “It’s going to be a disaster, I just know it is” or even “It’s going to be perfect!”, how about: “I expect there will be great bits, good bits, and not so good bits, like any relationship.”
Write down what you have been thinking negatively about. Write the extreme negative statement that comes to mind. Now write three ‘middle of the road’ possibilities – not so exciting (or terrifying), but a more realistic take on what is actually more likely to happen. Giving your brain more options will reduce emotionality and allow you to think more clearly.
2) Stop over-generalizing the negative
Ask yourself: “If something bad happens, do I over-generalize it? Do I view it as applying to everything and being permanent rather than containing it to one place and time?”
For example, if someone turns you down for a date, do you spread the negativity beyond that person, time, and place by telling yourself: “Nothing ever works out for me!”? If you fail a test do you say to yourself, “Well, I failed that test; I’m not happy about it, but I’ll try harder next time.”? Or do you over-generalize it by telling yourself you’re “stupid” or “can’t learn anything!”?
And while we’re on the subject…
3) Don’t minimize the positive
Negative thinking stops people seeing the positive when it does happen. It’s as if there’s a screen filtering out positives and just letting in stuff that confirms the ‘negative bias’. Magnifying setbacks and minimizing successes leads to de-motivation and misery.
Get into the habit of seeing setbacks as temporary and specific rather than as permanent and pervasive. We all tend to find what we look for. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about a person, for instance, get into the habit of balancing it out with one positive thought about them: “He’s so insincere… Mind you, to be fair, he was helpful with that project… and he can be very funny… ” The positive is there but you have to look for it.
4) Stop mindreading
Thinking negatively stops us relaxing with uncertainty. This can lead to ‘mindreading’. “She hasn’t texted me back; she doesn’t like me!” or “He only said that to make me feel better, he doesn’t really think that!”
Having to assign a meaning to something before you have real evidence makes you more likely to believe what you imagine without question. Holding off assigning (made up) meaning to an ambiguous situation is a key part of overcoming negative thinking.
When you become more positive (or just more comfortably neutral), you’ll be doing more of: “I don’t know why she hasn’t texted me back yet… ” You’ll also be able to consider all possible reasons you can think of, not just the negative ones.
Here are a few to help you out:
She’s forgotten her phone.
The phone’s battery is dead.
She’s run out of phone credits.
She’s in a lecture.
She’s on a plane.
She’s out of range.
You get the drift. None of these are attributable to you and your likeability and all are as plausible as any other explanation.
5) Stop taking all the responsibility
If I put it down to ‘other people’ or ‘luck’ when something is good or successful and don’t take any credit myself (even if the success was largely down to me), then I am externalizing the positive. Or I might externalize the quality of goodness from my friend when he does something kind by telling myself: “He only did that to win favours!” If you (or someone else) do something good or well, just accept it.
Negative thinkers also tend to do the opposite. They will internalize – that is, blame themselves – for all kinds of negatives that have little or nothing at all to do with them. Look at how much control and influence you really have over things that you tend to think negatively about.
6) Stop forcing your own rules on life
“If he loved me, he wouldn’t do that.”
“If I was a good mother, I wouldn’t lose my temper.”
“People shouldn’t act like that.”
“If I can’t do this, then I must be really stupid!”
“He was late – he must be seeing someone else!”
“Saying that means he doesn’t respect me!”
“My medical tests haven’t come back and that means it’s bad news!”
Sometimes known as ‘must-erbation’, making up tight rules as to how reality must or should be is a sure-fire way of feeling let down by yourself and others.
This isn’t to say that we shouldn’t expect anything from ourselves and others, but rather that the rules need not be unreasonably inflexible.
If you feel disappointed or let down, then you must have been expecting something else. Examine what it was and ask yourself: “Was my expectation too narrow?”
7) Stop making stuff up and believing it
Imagination is a wonderful thing, but not if you use it to scare yourself. Sometimes we need to be able to ‘suspend the functioning of the imagination’ (to quote Ernest Hemingway, no less). Looking at an upcoming event in your mind and negatively hypnotizing yourself by vividly imagining the worst is like using a hammer to paint a picture. Your imagination is there as a tool to be used constructively.By practicing imagining things going well, making it more likely, you’ll be calmer in the situation and it will be a much better use of your time.
If you’d like a flavour of this exercise, then click the free (yes, there really are no hidden extras) audio link below.
If you still have wildly negative thoughts, then at least ‘dilute’ them by imagining a positive outcome as well as the negative one. If you imagine forgetting what to say in an upcoming presentation, immediately disregard that and instead imagine it going well.
Stopping negative thinking takes time and effort, and to an extent it’s a job that’s never done. Practicing using these seven tips will serve you well for the rest of your life âEUR” isn’t it worth spending a little time with them now?
Despite his negativity, Keith (a friend of mine) recognizes his own negative leanings and actually said he found these tips useful.
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There are those who look at the Bible as just another book you can pick up at Amazon or Barnes and Noble. It is no different than any of the thousands of books I can choose to read. This is not the proper way to consider the Bible when you look at it’s history.
But the Bible is unlike any book ever written or read. Let me share some information about the Bible;
1) It was written over a span of 1600 years – Although we can look at the Bible and see the first book is Genesis with the last one being Revelation this is not the order in which the book was written but the order that outlines the chronological event. It begins with stating God created man and ends with man being in heaven.
2) It was written by over 40 different authors, many of who didn’t know each other- Moses wrote the first 5 books of the Bible speaking of events that he was not there to witness. Yet the authors wrote about events they were not there to see even though when we put them all together there is no contradiction. Consider the book of Daniel. He predicted the exact year Jesus Christ was to be born over 500 years in the past. No one has ever predicted with such accuracy future events so far into the future.
3) Many chapters were written without the benefit of knowing what was in the other chapters – It’s very hard to create a collaborative work when the people who wrote it never speak. The Bible does that by having each author write a piece and when it is all put together we are left with a masterpiece.
4) It was written for one specific purpose – The Bible is not a history book although it is historically correct. It is not a science book but it does not contradict science. It was written to outline the history of man’s redemption and the outcome to occur to man in the future. When we keep that purpose in mind we can more clearly see why it was written the way it was written.
Only a being with Supreme Intelligence could devise a book that was written in a way that no other book in the history of mankind has been written. That is why it is still on the best sellers list worldwide.
Make sure you pick up a copy for yourself.
Conventional wisdom holds that gossip and social exclusion are always malicious, undermining trust and morale in groups. But sharing this kind of “reputational information” could have benefits for society, according to a new study published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.
Robb Willer, an associate professor of sociology at Stanford University, explored the nature of gossip and ostracism in collaboration with co-authors Matthew Feinberg, a postdoctoral researcher at Stanford, and Michael Schultz from the University of California-Berkeley.
Their research shows that gossip and ostracism can have positive effects, serving as tools by which groups reform bullies, thwart exploitation of “nice people,” and encourage cooperation.
“Groups that allow their members to gossip,” said Feinberg, “sustain cooperation and deter selfishness better than those that don’t. And groups do even better if they can gossip and ostracize untrustworthy members. While both of these behaviors can be misused, our findings suggest that they also serve very important functions for groups and society.”
The researchers divided 216 participants into groups, asking them to play a game and make financial choices that would benefit their respective groups.
Researchers commonly use this public-goods exercise to examine social dilemmas because individual participants will benefit the most by selfishly free-riding off everyone else’s contributions while contributing nothing themselves.
Before moving on to the next round with an entirely new group, participants could gossip about their prior group members. Future group members then received that information and could decide to exclude — ostracize — a suspect participant from the group before deciding to make their next financial choices.
‘Invest in the public good’
The researchers found that when people learn about the behavior of others through gossip, they use this information to align with those deemed cooperative. Those who have behaved selfishly can then be excluded from group activities based on the prevailing gossip. This serves the group’s greater good, for selfish types are known to exploit more cooperative people for their own gains.
“By removing defectors, more cooperative individuals can more freely invest in the public good without fear of exploitation,” the researchers noted.
However, there is hope for the castaways. When people know that others may gossip about them — and experience the resulting social exclusion — they tend to learn from the experience and reform their behavior by cooperating more in future group settings. In contrast, highly anonymous groups, like many Internet message boards, lack accountability and thereby allow antisocial behavior to thrive.
“Those who do not reform their behavior, behaving selfishly despite the risk of gossip and ostracism, tended to be targeted by other group members who took pains to tell future group members about the person’s untrustworthy behavior,” Willer said. “These future groups could then detect and exclude more selfish individuals, ensuring they could avoid being taken advantage of.”
The very threat of ostracism frequently deterred selfishness in the group. Even people who had been ostracized often contributed at higher levels when they returned to the group. “Exclusion compelled them to conform to the more cooperative behavior of the rest of the group,” the researchers wrote.
The study reflects past research showing that when people know others may talk about their reputation, they tend to behave more generously. Where reputational concerns are especially strong, people sometimes engage in “competitive altruism,” attempting to be highly pro-social to avoid exclusion from a group. The same appears to hold true for those returning from “exile” — the incentive is to cooperate rather than risk more trouble.
“Despite negative connotations, the pairing of the capacity to gossip and to ostracize undesirable individuals from groups has a strong positive effect on cooperation levels in groups,” Willer said.
Looking ahead, Willer and his colleagues are conducting field experiments on how the threat of gossip and exclusion affect behavior in real-world settings — in one study, for instance, they’re calling car repair shops for estimates, with one group of callers stating they are active users of Yelp, the online review service that can make or break reputations.
As Willer points out, whether one calls it gossip or “reputational information sharing,” as sociologists and psychologists do, this behavior, along with ostracism, seems fundamental to human nature.
People pass on information about how others behave in workplaces, student workgroups, business and political coalitions, on the Internet, in volunteer organizations and beyond. While much of this behavior may be undesirable and malicious, a lot of it is critical to deterring selfishness and maintaining social order in groups.
“I think it does speak to the mechanisms that keep people behaving honestly and generously in many settings and, where behavior is entirely anonymous, helps explain when they don’t,” Willer said.
Sometimes we hold onto a dead relationship long past when it should have been given a decent burial and laid to rest. It can be exceptionally challenging to let go of a past relationship and move on. The challenge is complicated by so many factors beyond a broken heart. These can include the complications of pride (of course), and our values, beliefs, expectations, needs, and dreams.
Not only are we dealing with our own complications, but we also have to live with the complications of others. Their expectations and values for us, their beliefs and dreams for us. No wonder it can be hard to move on.
One solution is to step back and reframe the situation. Instead of deciding that losing the relationship means we are a failure, we can decide that this is an opportunity to find the gift.
Let’s break that down. One reason it can be difficult to let go of a past relationship is because (on some level) we might consider that relationship to be a failure, therefore, we are a failure. Ouch. That’s not a good feeling so we try to prolong the hope that the relationship can be revived, thereby proving to ourselves and everyone else that we’re not a failure.
So let’s step back and do a reframe. To do this we can draw on behavioral psychology, namely, the A-B-Cs of behavior. A = Antecedent, what occurs before the behavior, B = Behavior (actions, beliefs, wants, values, etc.), and C = Consequences of the behavior. Simple.
In our situation, A is the relationship (it occurs before a break-up.) B is now the break-up (the behavior), and C becomes the feeling of failure (a consequence of the break-up.) So let’s reframe this and find the gift.
A can be what that relationship gave us (a sense of adventure, security, prestige, etc.), which leads to B, a deeper awareness of who we are and what we want out of life. C can be the motivation to find more effective ways to get our needs met based on our newfound knowledge of ourselves.
A second example of this equation might be this: A is the feeling of failure and B is the decision to not be a victim or martyr. C, then, could become a new or resurrected sense of strength, dignity, and self-respect as you take back the power that the broken relationship had to destroy you.
Now, go ahead and employ this equation to help you step back, reframe your situation, and find the gift!
Jan 12, 2014
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“There is a grace of kind listening, as well as a grace of kind speaking.”
~ Frederick William Faber (1814-1863)
How we speak
And how we listen
To attain the relational peak
Or just be plain missin’.
Kind listening is grace
And kind speaking is space
As two relate
One with another.
The achievement of grace
Is the purpose of our race
To coexist in the state
Of sister and brother.
When grace is on show
Between any two
There they both grow
Into a togetherness so true.
Speaking and listening in respectful ways is not simply about treating others as we would like to be treated, though I do not begrudge The Golden Rule of “treat others as you would wish to be treated.” No, speaking and listening in respectful ways runs to the core of seeing the other person as they truly are. Sure, we don’t want them to go through anything we wouldn’t want to go through, but we are also trying to live – in our relating with them – as if we were them. This can be difficult to understand: living for another person. But interpersonal grace is so much more than living solely in our own beings. We must simply try this, but we cannot understand it, nor implement it, unless we have dealt with our own stuff – that information we know about ourselves that we find irrepressibly sad and unacceptable.
DEALING WITH OUR STUFF
There is so much safety of self involved in dealing in ways of interpersonal grace. We cannot sustain being ‘nice’ if we don’t feel ‘nice’ within – eventually our own self-defined and self-perpetuated nastiness, having not dealt with our stuff, will boil out and into the arena of public life, where it is no longer secret.
Relational sustainability finds its limits more within us than in any other person we meet. Even if the other person is broken beyond healing, and there are not many of those, God is able to grace us with the interpersonal ability to be friends. It is up to us, and not the other person, but we must deal with our truth; those truths that hold us back from becoming a person more fully reconciled as to accept oneself.
Once we understand that the relational life is all about interpersonal grace, then we may be a friend with everyone we meet. God is God for all, and just the same we are to be people who are for all people. Such grace in tolerance and acceptance, available to all, unconditionally, is the true gospel.
© 2014 S. J. Wickham.
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Triumph Or Tragedy!
Cain and Abel:
These two brothers not only represent the first recorded siblings in the bible but tragically they also represent the first case of murder to visit the earth’s inhabitants. The only hint of the source of the conflict is shown in the incident of their respective offerings made to God. I have to believe that they were properly instructed in the protocol associated with the offering ritual and am at a loss to understand why Cain would decide not only to be disobedient and bring an unacceptable offering but to be visibly upset when it was not received by God. Furthermore, his transferring his anger towards God onto his brother Abel shows that Cain had serious issues in accepting responsibility. Such animosity allowed to escalate to the point of murder is quickly followed by Cain’s retort to God: Am I my brother’s keeper? [Genesis 4:9] Abel was at the very least the younger brother and there should have been a sense of responsibility on Cain’s part to think of him as such and feel the need to be a ‘keeper’ but the unrecorded jealousy sprung suddenly with deadly consequences. Sibling relationships certainly got off to a sad start.
Jacob and Esau:
These recorded twins had problems even in the womb. Their mother, Rebekah had been barren but when she became pregnant with them, they ‘struggled together within her‘ and the LORD told her that ‘the elder would serve the younger‘. [Gen. 25:22-24] In the account of this sibling relationship we are shown two incidents in their lives that illustrate the contention growing between the two brothers, one son [Esau] being a favorite of the father, Isaac, and the other son [Jacob] being favored by the mother, Rebekah. This distinction may very well have contributed to the foundational problems of these twins [notwithstanding the prophecy] however when Esau sold his birthright to Jacob [thereby despising it] he sealed his fate. The second incident involved the blessing traditionally given to the firstborn son. This was a devious plot concocted by Rebekah herself probably in an effort to ensure that Jacob would indeed receive the blessing.
Having overheard Isaac send Esau to hunt and prepare his favorite meal of venison that he may bestow the ‘blessing’ on him, Rebekah hastily devised a plan and sent in Jacob to assume Esau’s identity and usurp the blessing by deceiving his father [ now old and blind]. So invested was she that she volunteered to take on the curse Jacob thought would surely befall him should he be found out for such a deception. [You can read the scheming details in Genesis ch. 27.] The heartbreak was devastating on Esau when he returned to his father’s bedside only to find out he had been tricked a second time. He lifted up his voice and wept; “O my father, hast thou but one blessing… bless me, even me also.” [Gen. 27:38] Many years later after their father’s death these brothers were able to triumph from the tragedy of earlier times.
Rachel and Leah
Rachel and Leah were sisters and the daughters of Laban, the brother of Rebekah, Jacob’s mother. The bible describes Leah [the older] as ‘tender eyed’ but Rachel as ‘beautiful and well favoured’. From the moment that Jacob saw Rachel he loved her and desired to have her as his wife. Years earlier Laban had been enthusiastically in favor when his sister, Rebekah was to become the wife of Isaac [Jacob's father] and now he had two daughters of his own to give in marriage. So when Laban realised the love that Jacob had for the ‘beautiful’ Rachel and his willingness to work seven years for the right to marry her, he consented to the union. But when it came time to give Rachel to wife, he tricked Jacob by secretly substituting Leah in her place. Needless to say that Jacob was furious to discover the deception (what’s that saying?… what goes around, comes around!). This entire story unfolds in Genesis Ch. 29. You can read it there.
Well in order to win the hand of his true love Jacob ended up working another seven years for Rachel and loved her demonstrably more than Leah to the extent that Leah felt hated. From the accounts we see that this arrangement weighed heavily on Leah and created great rivalry between her and Rachel and extended even to the fierce competition in childbearing. This jockeying for Jacob’s favor exposed a very dysfunctional household; and even though the unions eventually produced the twelve patriarchs of Israel, it was not without heartbreak and tragedy.
The sibling relationships in the bible expressed so long ago are played out even today in our everyday modern families and make me wonder if we will ever grow beyond the factors that seem to beset the harmony that’s so needed in our lives.
What do you think? Feel free to leave me a comment.
Till next time, God willing, Grace, Mercy and Peace!
©2013 Karen Hodge
Hi! I’m Karen.
I have a genuine curiosity about many things – how traditions came to be, who invented what, why we do things the way we do them and what influences our behavior.
Meanwhile, Grace, Mercy and Peace be with you.
Is height important in matters of the heart? According to new research from Rice University and the University of North Texas, the height of a potential partner matters more to women than to men, and mostly for femininity and protection.
The study, “Does Height Matter? An Examination of Height Preferences in Romantic Coupling,” was conducted in two parts. Part one, which used data from the Yahoo! personal dating advertisements of 455 males (average height of 5 feet 8 inches and average age of 36 years) and 470 females (average height of 5 feet 4 inches and average age of 35 years) from throughout the U.S., found that 13.5 percent of the men wanted to date only women shorter than they are. In contrast, nearly half of the women — 48.9 percent — wanted to date only men taller than they are.
“Evolutionary psychology theory argues that ‘similarity is overwhelmingly the rule in human mating,’” said Michael Emerson, the Allyn and Gladys Cline Professor of Sociology, co-director of Rice’s Kinder Institute for Urban Research and the study’s co-author. “However, our study suggests that for physical features such as height, similarity is not the dominant rule, especially with females.”
The second part of the study included 54 male (average height of 5 feet 9 inches) and 131 female volunteers (average height of 5 feet 4 inches) recruited from a U.S. university. The participants answered open-ended questions in an online survey. The findings were similar to the first part of the study: 37 percent of male respondents wanted to date only women shorter than they are, while 55 percent of female respondents wanted to date only men taller than they are.
According to the study data, the dominant reasons females cited for preferring a tall partner are matters of protection and femininity.
“As the girl, I like to feel delicate and secure at the same time,” said a woman in the study who is 5 feet 3 inches tall. “Something just feels weird in thinking about looking ‘down’ into my man’s eyes. There is also something to be said about being able to wear shoes with high heels and still being shorter. I also want to be able to hug him with my arms reaching up and around his neck.”
Men were much less likely to say that height mattered, and for those that did, they preferred shorter women, but not so short that it would cause problems with physical intimacy.
“I like it when the body of your partner fits yours,” said another study participant, a male who is 5 feet 11 inches tall. “It also makes it easier to kiss, hold hands and do other activities with your partner.”
George Yancey, a professor of sociology at the University of North Texas and the study’s lead author, believes that the height preferences of men and women can be explained by traditional societal expectations and gender stereotypes. He noted that it is a widespread perception that tall height is a personal asset for men and a personal liability for women. He said that the study’s finding that height matters more to women supports the social system of patriarchy, in which males are the primary authority figures.
“The masculine ability to offer physical protection is clearly connected to the gender stereotype of men as protectors,” he said. “And in a society that encourages men to be dominant and women to be submissive, having the image of tall men hovering over short women reinforces this value.”
Jan 5, 2014
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